A lot of people who failed thought that they failed because they lacked the necessary skills, needed knowledge, or the required talent. Well, it is not. The truth? It does not require you to become the brightest, or the most talented to be successful. The only reason why some fail is because they have some destructive habits.
The following are the habits that you should eliminate in your life.
Trying to live up to others' expectations
Are you bothered with the expectations from your family? Your friends? Or your boss? Well, don't be. They are not the one who's walking in your shoes. They are not the one who will suffer nor benefit from the choices you will make for the future. So, why is that their opinions hold so much weight on you?
Go and set your expectations. This will force all the people around you to see you as an individual person and this will allow you to define success according to your own definition and terms.
Getting obsessed with things that don't matter
What is more important – to impress other people with fake successes or to have true happiness and pursue your dreams?
Don't get distracted. Oftentimes, we try to get obsessed of the things that really do not matter. Why would you try and be a hot shot for everyone else? That does not matter. Pursuing and making your dreams is what matters. Do not think of the things others might think of you. At the end of the day, it is you, and only you who have to live with yourself.
Bragging about your big, marvelous, and wonderful dreams
Walk the talk. Don't brag your big dreams with other people unless you have already attained it. Nobody cares if you want to be a big star on television, unless you are already being seen on TV. The more time you spend talking and bragging about these big dreams of yours, the less time you'll be spending in making this dreams come true.
Dwelling on your past failures
Past is past. You can never go back. You can either just learn from it or dwell on it. I say you go with the former. You can do nothing of your past mistakes and failures. Don't get affected by it. Instead, learn from your mistakes. Why did you fail? What are the decisions you've made that made that failure? How can you learn from this failure? Look back, reflect and learn from it and move forward. That's it.
Don't Be That Loser
In connection to not dwelling in the past, don't be the loser who got afraid to try again because of their failures. Always go for another try … and if you fail again; learn and try again. Try and try again until you succeed. A cliché, yes; but a very powerful one. So instead of locking yourself in your apartment, drink alcohol and stuffs, learn and try one more time. There's always greatness coming for you. Don't be the wiener, be the successful winner.
Now this pretty much sums up all those destructive habits. Want to be successful or be more successful? Drop these habits now.